"Be afraid and face it anyway...the only thing you'll discover in the process is that you were braver than you thought."
FEAR...we have all heard the well-known acronym for the word..."false evidence appearing real". What I want to focus on here is the 'REAL' - This is the part where we are stifled, frozen in place, and paralyzed. There was a book I read several years ago called "Face the Fear and Do It Anyway", the author escapes me right now, but I remember reading that book and thinking, "easier said than done".
How do you move ahead in fear, when you fear, when everything in your mind is bigger and more frigtening than anything in the real world? Answer: You just do!
The fact of the matter is this, there is no such thing as fear --- I can hear the resounding "WHAT???" as you read this...that's right. There are only things that you have never done before. The fact that you haven't simply means you have no point of reference for what the experience will be like...so it's really the unknown and uncertainty that gives you pause to make the decision to move forward, or not.
If we could take a moment to convince ourselves that FEAR does not really exist, and then decide that if we want to experience something it is just a matter of deciding to experience it.
For example, I was terrified of public speaking [people are still amazed at that statement] but, it is the truth! I could talk my behind off on topics that I was passionate about in small groups or with friends that were in my circle. However, when it came to presenting, I would freeze like a ice burg, stumble over my words, and feel like an absolute idiot. After several attempts to overcome the FEAR, I realized that I had complete control over my situation. One day, I became so distraught at the fact that I fouled up a presentation that a 5-year old could have pulled off that I made the decision right then and there that this "speaking" thing was not going to make me look like a fool again. I stood before the mirror and literally gave myself a good, stern talkin' to.
After that, no problems! Really!!! No problems whatsoever...Now, I train and conduct presentations consistently. I even get calls to speak.
The point, anything in life is matter of deciding. It is not about the labels we put on it such as FEAR. It's about becoming bigger than the perception you created about it, whatever it is. Sure, go ahead and feel what you're feeling, whether you call it fear or something else, you're human --- just do the dog-gone-thang!!!
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