"Our children are given through us, not to us...we [parents] are simply there to usher them into their adult lives, and then, love them on their way to their agenda."
When my son was born, I was totally unaware of what this parenting gig would be like. I had not expectations, other than I would do the very best I could to raise him under the best circumstances I could.
After I brought him home from the hospital, my best friend's mother paid a visit to my apartment. She held my son, and cradled him in her arms. She then looked at me and said, "Baby, you got to remember, they come into the world with their own agenda."
I didn't know what that meant at the time, but as my son grew up, developing his own personality, his own way of doing things, and his own
set of rules for his decisions; it became more apparent that he truly had his own agenda. It was then my decision to not squash his ability to think by thinking for him. It was my duty as his parent to "usher" him in the direction he chose before I was even his mother.
Let them go...once they have crossed the threshold of adulthood, it is time to see if they can truly fly with the wings you have given them.
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